How do you treat an overreaction?

Sometimes it is the easiest to see what causes us to overreact around the people most dear to us.  Someone leaves a cabinet door open, or a dish

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What makes you say thank you?

What you say thank you for says a lot about you.  We don’t mean the perfunctory ones that are often tossed around throughout our day.  We mean the

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What does resistance cost you?

If you’ve ever wondered why it is that we go on and on about the importance of feeling your feelings, the reason behind it is a bit sneaky.

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Declaring vs. Exploring

Have you noticed that when you are frightened, you make more declarative statements? For example: I’m lost I can’t do this  They will never understand me  It’s hopeless

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Don’t Drive Angry

Somewhere along the way we heard that Bill Watterson said that when he works, it never looks like it.  For him, working was staring up at the clouds

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The self-esteem game

Self-esteem is like monopoly money.  No matter how much of it you get, it is still useless in the real world.  Let’s stop saying that high self-esteem is

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What am I avoiding feeling

A very useful tool in life is to ask yourself, “what am I avoiding feeling?”  If you are feeling blocked, stressed, overwhelmed, anxious, hopeless, annoyed, dejected, lonely, [insert

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Wrestling Demons

There's a popular meme: Sometimes I wrestle with my demons.  Sometimes we just snuggle. It’s the push and pull between these two poles that makes life interesting.  When

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Which ingredients are you mixing?

You carry All the ingredients To turn your life into a nightmare - Don’t mix them! - Hafiz We are often looking outside of ourselves for the threat.

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What do you do when you come to a yellow light?

Do you speed up or slow down?  Be honest…We get a yellow light from our thoughts, emotions, and sensations all the time.  There is something telling us, “pssst,

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