Objects in mirror are closer than they appear

Similarly, anger unexperienced seems larger than it is. It’s kind of like the monster under the bed.  When you get down on your knees and look it straight

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Sorry: Do you mean it?

Have you ever said “I’m sorry” as a way to avoid truly taking responsibility for a wrong-doing?   Throw away lines don’t belong in our relationships.  They create

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What is guilt?

A while ago we wrote about devolved emotions.  If that is a strange phrase to you, you can reread that newsletter here.  Basically, when we avoid what we

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Important questions to ask yourself

If you notice that you’re being controlling, hypercritical, or manipulative, pause… ask yourself, am I frightened about something? If you’re feeling bored, jealous, guilty, shame, or impatient, pause…

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Burying our emotions alive…

The problem with burying (suppressing) your anger (or any emotion) is that you bury it alive.  It’s great when we can truly drop an upset and just let

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Resisting Feelings

We speak a lot about the importance of paying attention to what you do to stop yourself from feeling what you’re authentically feeling.  Suppressing our feelings takes a

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Do you have an allergy to your emotions?

An allergy is a reaction to what is usually a harmless foreign substance.  Our immune system treats the foreign substance e.g. pollen, peanuts, dust, etc. as if it

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You Hurt My Feelings

"You hurt my feelings" is something most of us dread hearing.  As such, we often bend ourselves into pretzels to avoid hearing it, or use it as a

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How do you treat an overreaction?

Sometimes it is the easiest to see what causes us to overreact around the people most dear to us.  Someone leaves a cabinet door open, or a dish

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What makes you say thank you?

What you say thank you for says a lot about you.  We don’t mean the perfunctory ones that are often tossed around throughout our day.  We mean the

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