Enough Compromising

The conventional approach to compromise is that it is a necessary component for healthy relationships.  The usual line is: To have a good relationship, you need to compromise.

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You Hurt My Feelings

"You hurt my feelings" is something most of us dread hearing.  As such, we often bend ourselves into pretzels to avoid hearing it, or use it as a

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Restarting

The other day I was at lunch with two friends who were working something out that was of so little consequence, it could barely even be called an

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How do you look at your garden?

Have you ever noticed that when you’re walking around your own yard you tend to notice all the flaws?  You notice how that rose bush isn’t blooming as

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How to be the most interesting person in the room

If you want to be the person at the party who always has something to say and is never at a loss for words, be interested.  The most

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This is how I love you baby

Do you know the song "Hearts and Bones" by Paul Simon?  He’s written in it a great line, "This is how I love you baby."  He is pointing

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Preventing a stone heart

"Too long a sacrifice Can make a stone of the heart" -W. B. Yeats Take a look right now, have you developed a stone heart towards any of

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How to deal with controlling people

Here's how to deal with controlling people: Stop Trying To Control Them.  ​Don't get on the dance floor if you don’t like the dance!

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4 Steps to avoid “stupid” arguments

Have you ever found yourself in the middle of a “stupid argument” and asked, “how did we get here?”  Or awakened in the morning after an argument and

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Are you the nagged or the nagger?

It’s not fun being on either side of this tug of war.  In order to get out of it, one person needs to drop the rope.  What ends

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