How willing are you to be in the process of growing? To be between where you were and where you want to be? If you are interested in satisfaction and well-being, it is an essential piece of awareness, because, drum-roll please … you are always between where you were and where you are going to be.
More often than not we find fault with ourselves for not already being where we will one day be or where we one day hope we will be. We see where we currently are, as wrong. This kind of self-flagellation saps us of essential energy, creativity, and drive. You can spend a lifetime here. There is likely always somewhere else you could be that would be more impressive than where you are now.
The challenge is to become facile at accepting where you are, while also moving toward what you want. Think of it this way, when you are getting dressed in the morning are you judgmental of yourself at the point when you have only one leg in the pants and not yet both? No, you accept that you are in the process of getting your pants on. The process requires one leg to go in first and then the other. And you move through this process fluidly. What would life be like if you could accept the process required for your other endeavors in this way?
Judgments are like brakes. They slow down the process. If you berated yourself every morning when you only had one leg through the pant hole, it would be exhausting and getting dressed would be a miserable experience, and likely take more time. Take a look at where your judgments about other facets of your life might be slowing you down.
Conventional thinking says that berating ourselves (being judgmental) helps motivate us. This "wisdom" says that if we accept things the way they are we become complacent. But that is absolutely false. We have access to many more skills and abilities when we drop our judgmental attitude toward ourselves (and others).
To daring not to judge
