If you want to be your own Workability Consultant or you are feeling particularly stuck and can’t seem to figure out why, one massively useful question to ask yourself is, “what am I trying not to feel??”
A lot of the unpleasant symptoms we experience are actually the direct results of resisting our feelings. For example, anxiety, hopelessness, and of course, stress.
You don’t have to take our word for it. You’ve probably experienced this phenomenon many MANY times. You’re telling a friend about a worry you have and suddenly you find yourself crying. Or, you are sharing how hopeless it feels to watch world events and you start to get angry. Once those emotions start coming out, you usually transcend the feelings of worry or hopelessness. At the very least, it gets a little better. Usually at the end of it, you sigh and say, “thanks, I feel better now.”
We do not suffer our feelings, we suffer our resistance to our feelings.
When you ask yourself the question, “what am I avoiding feeling?” you shift your awareness away from the symptom of resistance and toward the solution. You might be surprised at the answers that are suddenly revealed to you. Is this question going to be a cure-all and instantly change your state, probably not. But it is an important step in the right direction.
To awareness of our resistance
