Important questions to ask yourself

If you notice that you’re being controlling, hypercritical, or manipulative, pause… ask yourself, am I frightened about something? If you’re feeling bored, jealous, guilty, shame, or impatient, pause…

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Burying our emotions alive…

The problem with burying (suppressing) your anger (or any emotion) is that you bury it alive.  It’s great when we can truly drop an upset and just let

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Compliance vs Responsibility

Let’s talk about the relationship between compliance and responsibility.  We often hide behind compliance to avoid responsibility.  "She told me to do it!"  "We were only following the

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Hurry up!

Are you always looking to get to the next thing?  There are a lot of folks in that camp.  We get so busy in our minds getting to

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Building Courage Muscles

You know those moments when there is something you want to say or a conversation you think needs to be started, something you know in your bones is

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Resisting Feelings

We speak a lot about the importance of paying attention to what you do to stop yourself from feeling what you’re authentically feeling.  Suppressing our feelings takes a

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Do you get what you resist?

Have you ever noticed that you get what you resist?  Take a look right now.  If you can’t see it in your own life, look around you at

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Do you have an allergy to your emotions?

An allergy is a reaction to what is usually a harmless foreign substance.  Our immune system treats the foreign substance e.g. pollen, peanuts, dust, etc. as if it

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Enough Compromising

The conventional approach to compromise is that it is a necessary component for healthy relationships.  The usual line is: To have a good relationship, you need to compromise.

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You Hurt My Feelings

"You hurt my feelings" is something most of us dread hearing.  As such, we often bend ourselves into pretzels to avoid hearing it, or use it as a

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